Maybe you just need more practice?"Son, you gotta learn to live with disappointment". I haven't (learned)...
Believe me, I've had plenty of chances to learn how to deal with disappointment! lol The secret was realizing that I can't really control any outcome, but I can control how I choose to react to them. And those experiences are what make success even sweeter. Don't mistake me for someone who's had an easy ride through life so has no idea of "how hard it is". I'm not gonna bore people with my journey but I can assure you I didn't skip any steps along the way to this point. Hell, I'm not even half-way through and it's just a different set of challenges now - it doesn't get easier!
And I have freely acknowledged elsewhere that "success" in life, no matter how one chooses to define it, does have a very large element of chance in it. I posted this in another thread:
The Dirty Secret About Success - BBC Article
Yep!"Very often, the most successful people are moderately talented but very lucky."
So, I don't disagree that we don't have as much control over our destiny as we like to think. My comment about "blaming everyone else for their shitty lives" is not aimed at those in genuine misfortune due to circumstances they can't control. That's an entirely different conversation. Rather it is intended for those who feel hard-done by because they haven't yet achieved what they feel they "deserve", the currently popular word for this very-old phenomena being "entitlement".
The fact that there is so much beyond an individual's control is precisely why I have zero patience or time for people who won't take responsibility for the things they CAN control. Like attitude, outlook, and basic things like not looking/acting like a slob but still expecting to be regarded as a "professional".